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The ties that bind...What's Your Peace Proposal?

Posted on October 3, 2014 at 6:30 AM

If you followed I-NETRADIO.Com this week, then you know the topic for this week discussion on the "Buddha Beat" was “The Parent/Child Relationship. Parents doing Good Things for their Children and Children doing Good Things for their Parents. “

This led me to start thinking about another topic… family members who use their emotional and financial assistance… as a weapon. We all have that family member that helps you… only to throw it back in your face at later date…usually in a public arena. Family members who seems to live off the very fumes of another family member’s failure, desperation, and misery in order to feel good about themselves.

So how do you deal with it? How do you deal with the fact that sometimes the people who are cheering for your failure and misery… are your family members? So we all know about frenemies (less commonly spelled frienemy)...now frenemies can be two things... (A) A friend that is also your rival or... (B) A enemy pretending to be a friend. Nontheless, whether it's option (A) or option (B)...proceed with caution.

But what do we call family members who stab each other in the back… talk about each other worst then an enemy would… watch you squirm out of desperation… talk down to you as if you are a 3rd class citizen… And to simply put it…make you lose your religion and forget you are relatives?

Or is this simply part of religion? Or worst...part of human nature? What makes one person superior over another...even a family member?

Let’s do some time travel for just a second…shall we… I always like to refer to the “The Last Supper” as the first Family Thanksgiving Dinner... It’s just something about this scene that screams family holiday.

We’ve all been there…when Uncle Joe tries to pass off his war provoking words… as harmless...and sits there wondering why everyone around him is so upset. However in the case of “The Last Supper” there might been a good reason for the statement “…He that dips his hand with me in the dish, the same shall betray me.”

So with the upcoming holidays…what is your peace proposal? Better yet…do you have one? The Buddhist practice says that we should always strive for a harmonious family and chant for the happiness of your entire family…even those….well…let’s just say…special ones. With October 2 declared as Soka Gakkai International (SGI) Peace Day, what have you done to guarantee that your family holidays will be filled with Peace and Nonviolence?

~xoxo Sincerely Yours, Nerisa :)

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