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Me...And MY Adult Dodge Ball

Posted on September 7, 2014 at 10:35 AM

Every single time my gym teacher in high school blew his whistle and yelled out the word… DODGE BALL!!! Well…I cringed with absolute terror…I never understood the concept of allowing my fellow classmates to terrorize me. Needless to say, when Aunt Flow came to town I was more than happy to see her, regardless of the painful menstrual cramps and bitchy mood swings…Aunt Flow meant a get out of jail card from gym.

However, as an adult I still find myself in the endless games of Dodge Ball throughout the various stages of my life, whether it’s with family, frenemies, co-workers, or the sale clerk in the mall criticizing my height, my weight, my looks, my ethnicity…you name I’ve been there…done that.

So all this had me thinking on a Sunday morning…was there a point to dodge ball…after all…the wood shop class that I was force to take has done absolutely nothing for me…I am still waiting for the day to have a desire to build myself a bookshelf…probably never going to happen.

Now of course I was born in a different time and culture, although I am not old, I’m not young. I could remember the excitement of the first Atari Game, a world without microwave ovens, and television channels 2,4,5,7,9,11 and my favorite 13 was enough to keep everyone happy at the end of a hard day of school and/or work. And although I love social media…I think in the wrong hands…it gives bullies new ways to be bullies…each seeking their 5 minutes of fame.

So as I walk through the explosive minefields of what I call my adult dodge ball… I wonder…if I didn’t make excuses to get out of dodge ball as a kid…would I be a pro at the game as an adult. After all…dodge ball is not violent… unless those who participating makes it violent. “Nonviolence” does not merely mean to refrain from violence. Violence erupts when one person blames another for a problem or conflict. Conversely, nonviolence is a way of life in which one resolves, “Let me be the one to change first.” If this spirit were to be embraced, how much more at peace would our families and society itself be.” (Daisaku Ikeda)

So in the spirit in which this blog post was written, I want to Thank those individuals who keeps throwing rocks at me…I have built a strong and unshakable foundation…Thank You!

"A Successful woman is one who can build a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at her"

~xoxo Sincerely Yours, Nerisa :)

Categories: *My (Nichiren) Buddhist World*